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I would like to pass on some websites that FBISD and others have passed on to me for helping children with the national tragedy of Tuesday's events. To help children cope with the tragedy- www.nasponline.org. To talk to the children about news in general-
www.talkingwithkids.org/television/twk-news.html. How to talk to your children about the news-
I will keep you updated with other sites. Please remember to get your cues from your children for how much they want to talk about the events. Keep a close monitor on what they see of the events on television. The amount of information that is shared with them should be age appropriate. Try to be honest with them about your own feelings but remember to keep your adult concerns to share with adults and not our little ones who often worry deeply when they see or hear their parents being upset. Try to keep life on schedule because routine is very comforting to children. Take care of yourselves so you can take care of them. God Bless, Bev Cheff
I HAVE FOUND A VERY INFORMATIVE SITE THAT I WOULD LIKE TO PASS ON TO YOU. IT IS
THIS IS A VERY INFORMATIVE ARTICLE AS WELL AS THE SITES ON "PARENTING" AND "WARS AND VIOLENCE".
SIGNS OF ANXIETY AND STRESS IN CHILDREN
ANXIETY ABOUT BEING AWAY FROM PARENTS
INCREASED ATTACHMENT TO ADULTS
INCREASED IRRITABILITY AND EXPRESSIONS OF ANGER
WAYS TO HELP
HAVE THE CHILD WRITE A STORY ABOUT THE EVENT.THEY MAY
WRITE A NEWS STORY OR WRITE A LETTER TO A FRIEND.
HAVE THE CHILD DRAW A PICTURE OF THEIR FEELINGS ABOUT
INVITE THE CHILD TO TALK ABOUT THE TRAGEDY INCLUDING:
WHAT THEY HEARD THROUGH THE MEDIA
WHAT THEY HEARD THROUGH FRIENDS
(GENTLY CLARIFY MAJOR MISUNDERSTANDINGS)
POINT OUT FORTUNATE ASPECTS INCLUDING:
HEROES OF THE EVENT
HOW THE FAMILY/COMMUNITY PULLED TOGETHER
INVITE THE CHILD TO TALK ABOUT THEIR FEARS
DISCUSS THAT YOU HAVE SOME FEARS ALSO. BE SURE
NOT TO BURDEN THEM WITH ADULT FEARS THEY MAY
NOT BE ABLE TO UNDERSTAND OR ABOUT WHICH THEY
NEED NOT WORRY AS CHILDREN.
INQUIRE ABOUT ANY FEARS THEY HAVE; HEAR THESE
FULLY WITHOUT MINIMIZING THEM
ACKNOWLEDGE THEIR FEARS, ie. " I CAN UNDERSTAND
HOW THAT WOULD BE SCARY FOR YOU. I'M SURE IT
WILL BECOME LESS SCARY SOON."
PLAN A FAMILY PROJECT TO HELP VICTIMS OF THE EVENT.
SEND NOTES OF ENCOURAGEMENT TO THOSE IMPACTED
PRAY FOR VICTIMS AS A FAMILY
ATTEND WORSHIP SERVICES AT A LOCAL CHURCH. GOD IS
"AN EVER PRESENT HELP IN TIMES OF TROUBLE"
AND WILL BE A SOURCE OF YOUR FAMILIY'S