| A | B |
|---|
| Triangulation | When two conflicting family members try to bring in a third person to mediate (usually a child). |
| Don't Talk | The family rule which says its not appropriate to speak of the substance abuse within the home. |
| Don't Trust | The family rule which states that family members, usually a substance abusing parent, is not dependable. |
| Don't Feel | The family rule that states it's not always safe express one's emotions. |
| Hero Child | The family role of gaining positive attention through being responsible. |
| Lost Child | The family role where the individual has learned to stay out of the way and adust to whatever may happen in the chemically dependent home. |
| Scapegoat | The family role usually a child takes on in order to call negative attention to himself or herself. |
| Mascot | The family role (usually the youngest) that is characterized by being the family entertainer. |
| Placater | The family role sometimes known as the household social worker. |
| Codendency | An unwillingness to seriously challenge a drug dependent person's behavior thus further enabling the individual. |
| Enabling | Behavior that perpetuates or allows for unhealthy behavior to continue. |
| External focus | Defining one's self and esteem through someone else. |
| Hypervigilence | Continually being on edge. |
| Co-Conspirator | A type of codependency characterized by dong things to jeopardize the chemically dependent person's sobriety. |
| Apathetic | A type of codependency characterized by a feeling of helplessness and hopelessness. |
