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| communication climate-what is it? | the overall feeling or emotional mood between people-warm or cold, safe or anxious, comfortable or awkward, accepting or rejecting, open or guarded. communication shapes climates |
| communication climate-why is it important to understand? | understanding climates will empower u to create and sustain the climates u want in relationships |
| supportive vs. defensive climate | where we feel suported vs where we feel on guard and closed |
| four elements contributing to satisfying personal relationships | 1. actively use communication to build confirming climates, 2. accept and confirm others, 3. affirm and assert yourself, 4. respect diversity in relationships |
| relational dialectics-what is it? | opposing forces or tensions, that are normal parts of all relationships |
| relational dialectics-what are the three main tensions? | the three are autonomy and intimacy, novelty and routine, and openness and closedness |
| what is conflict? | a game to some people, some people like it, villian vs hero. a barganing table. content->what is actually going on, who involved and how to solve it. it helps redefine relationships and move them forward |
| five types of conflict-from handout-which are u? which is best? | accomodation (lose-lose, lose-win), compromise (lose-lose and win-win), avoidance (lose-lose), competition (win-lose), and calaboration (win-win or lose-lose). callaboration is the best one and i am collaboration |
| outcomes of conflict | winers and losers, the relationship either grows or dies |
| friendships and romantic relationships | attracted to people by: personality-what u could learn from them, things u want, cultural background, physical attraction, proximaty |
| diferences between male-male, female-female, and male-female friendships | female female-very open like to talk, male male-like doing stuff still gossip but not as talkative, male-female cant really define and sometimes sexual tention |
| why is it difficult to have opposite sex friend? | there is no real definition of what a girl guy relationship should be so sometimes people dont get it or sometimes one person likes the other |
| types of love and example of each | eros-romantic, storge-frienship, ludus-fun, game playing, pragma-practical/logical, mania-crazy oessive/possesive, agape-unconditional, philos-family |
| relational development | knapps theory of 1.construction, 2. maitnenence, 3. deterioration |
| Knapp's 10 stages of coming together and coming apart | coming together: 1. initiating (first meet), 2. experimenting (connection), 3. intensifying (trust), 4. integrating (merging), 5. bonding (ceremony). coming apart: 1. differentiating, 2. circomscribing, 3. stgnating, 4. avoiding, 5. terminating |
| relational maiteneance-what is it? why so important? examples | keeps us in a relationship. strategies are: positivity, openess, social networks, tasks, joint activites, talk, medicated comm., avoidance, antisocial, affection, focus on self, assurance |
| why do we remain friends/romantic partners with some and not others? | becuase of how much the relationship gives us |
| relational termination | the loss of a relationship |
| types and the roles | female: 1.beauty, 2. a sensitive and concerned nature, 3. nuturing/take care of others, 4. emotional and sensitive, 4. cooperative, 6. relationally focused, 7. dependent, 8. friendly and open to others, 9. submissive and servant, 10. helpful and considerate of others. males: 1. restricted emotionaly, 2. preoccupation with success, 3. inhibited expression of affection, 4. need for control and power, 5. competitive orientation to life, 6. homophobia, 7. fear of appearing feminine, 8. a singular/exclusive focus on sex, 9. independence and self-reliance, 10. physical strength and body shape/size |
| duck's 5 stages of dissolution | 1. breakdown, 2. intrapsychic, 3. dyadic stage, 4. social phase, 5. grave dressing |
| four horseman of the apocalypse | 1. chronic criticism, 2. chronic contempt, 3. chronic defensiveness, 4. chronic withdraw |
| family | male or female? legal marrige? adoption? live together? there is so much diveristy now in the term "family" unlike there use to be. a group of people or groups of people who are connected therough marriage, an ansestor or adoption. there is more to a family than just blood and government protection |
| family types-which is your family? | concentual (high conformity and high conversation), protective (low conversation and high conformity), pluralistic (low conformity and high conversation) and laissez faire (low conformity and low converstaion. I would say my family is pluralistic, we talk and are very open with each other but we are not the cookie cutter form of how a family is |
